Have The Respect To Walk Away

By Evan Sanders


There's this actually fascinating art in walking off from people who don't treat you well, respect you enough to respond to you, or just don't act like you mean much to them. On one hand you need to be close with as many good people as you can and you reach out making an attempt to meets new friends. On the other hand you've got this respect for yourself and pride in how you act. The middle ground is tough to find on occasion. It is something that I grapple with continually. Really, at what point do you hold your head up high and walk away from the relationship?

I hold myself to a pretty high standard. A large amount of the time I find myself not wanting to do something but doing it anyways because I know the other person deserves that. I'm of the opinion that is what I might have needed if the situation was switched around. But I feel a lot of the time others do not do that for me. I'm not sure if this is just my generation, but it is increasingly popular for people to just not take time to respond to you, not take seconds out of their day to recognize effort, and just hide. I don't know what it is. I don't understand what makes people do this. Is it a dearth of respect? Do you just not like me? Do you just not care?

As I am going through life, things have become more intensified. I give my heart out to others in a unique way that I have truly never been capable of before - and I love that I have started to develop that. But at the same time I have experienced many perspectives that are just the largest turnoffs I've ever come by. I find that balance between giving people pieces of me, and deciding to walk away. It's hard to let people in your life go especially when there is no gigantic blowup of any sort.

It's hard to switch off trying to bring other people joy. Because that's what it truly boils down to for me. I attempt to bring others as much joy as I can during the day. I attempt to make folks smile. I try to give them a little leg up, some confidence, some spark to their day that may actually make it all that much better and happier. I do not really expect them to do exactly same for me...but I do look for respect, and if it's not there, I do not make attempts to convince them...I just end up leaving.

Finding the balance has been stupendously hard on my heart these days. But in all honesty, I know what I need to do. I have to walk away. I must respect myself enough, the sort of person I am and not settle for something less than I know what I merit. You have to know what you are worth. If you really think you are worthwhile, you'll never settle for just anything. Remember, people only treat you certain ways by what you accept from them.




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