Rules To Follow When Dating Muslims

By Ann Turner


Islam has a very elaborate guide on courtship and marriage. Dating Muslims are required to follow the guide, whether they met online or in the real world. There is punishment if you fail to observe these rules. Beyond being punished by the community, you will face the wrath of Allah, one whose punishment is severe.

It is clear in Muslim faith that people must fall in love and marry. Religious teachings are consistent and constantly urge the faithful to love one another and also extend their love to all that Allah created. To protect people and the community from hurt and broken hearts, the principles are put in place. Everything you want to know about relationships, engagements, premarital sex and marriage is captured in the Quran.

The Quran does not restrict partners or a couple on where they should meet or who to fall in love with. These restrictions were prominent in traditional societies because people lived together. Courtship was easier because families knew the behaviors and characters of others through close monitoring. Courtships would also happen in full glare of everyone.

Online meeting for Muslims is gaining traction because people no longer live together and also want to make personal choices regarding the people they love. The internet also allows one to get in touch with people who are in distant countries. However, this does not meant that the rules have been suspended. They are followed as religiously as if it is the traditional society. This is good for the partners and society at large.

The principle rule of courtship is that the partners must never be found in the same room or space without a chaperon. This seclusion is deemed dangerous because it exposes the couple to temptations of sexual engagement. When you meet online, a person must not tempt you into getting into private space. This will compromise personal integrity, leaving you hurt and destroying your courtship.

Chaperons were present in traditional setting. Present day dating websites for Muslims have tweaked the idea to involve group activities where age mates, friends and family are involved. This happens through outdoor activities where you can interact with dignity. Remember that until marriage, even kissing or such closeness is prohibited.

Halal dating is the new version that is approved by clerics around the world. You are allowed to keep in contact with your target partner through the phone or via the internet. Even introduction by parents and relatives is allowed. Once you feel compatible and decide to spend your life together, you will sign a nikah, a contract that is just as binding as the marriage certificate.

It is common to mistake the courtship process in Islam as having no emotions and genuine love. These rules are only meant to protect you from hurt and the community from broken families. The arrangement provides ample time for partners to interact and make a decision on whether they want to spend the rest of their lives together. The rules will safeguard the integrity of the process, whether you meet physically or online.




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