Learning to Challenge Your Children

By Jennifer Callea


Teenagers growing up often experience the most difficult and stressful times in their lives. Physical and emotional stress, along with hormonal changes, mark some of the more difficult times that teenagers will have. These changes are not easy to understand or deal with, but both you and your children must handle these challenges. As your children go through their teen years, they will also have positive and rewarding times. In fact, most adults will look back at their memories as teenagers and realize what a fantastic time they actually had. Many people, however, will think about this time as being one of the worst parts of their lives.

Anytime parents have more than one child, their parenting skills need to be elevated greatly. Parents seem to pick favorites among their children, even if they don't mean to do it. Unfortunately, this is usually part of being human and not something that is easily avoidable.

Raising children takes awareness, and the ability to keep everything with your children in a proper perspective. The number one job or responsibility of parents is to make sure their children feel loved and wanted. When you are showing favoritism, you are doing damage to each child, even the favorite, so you should try to rectify the problem. I can tell you that we have all been at the point sometime in our lives when we feel like we weren't enough at something. It's hard to forget such a painful memory like that. Children are going to react differently in many situations, but as their parent, you need to be in tune with how those reactions might change. When it comes to an activity, make sure it's your child's decision, not your own. Give them the freedom to talk about how they feel with you. It is so much better to listen first and then give wisdom on what to do. Educating your kids on how they can improve is always a great way to teach them they are never done learning something.

Sometimes parents try to live through their children by expecting them to do what the parent was unable to do, and usually children do not like it. We are not talking about taking out the trash or helping with the dishes, etc. One thing that is hard for parents to admit, and that is when their children aren't quite as talented as they want them to be.

It is one of the worst things when you see a parent trying to re-live their childhood through their own kids. Make sure that you aren't putting too much pressure on your children in the activities they choose. However, this can happen in anything else the child is doing. Everything takes effort, and that is something you need to teach your children as they prepare to be involved in activities. In some cases, you could try altering the practice routine if the child likes the activity but is not yet ready to approach it as a budding professional.

To take your parenting to the next level, start becoming more active in your child's life, know what is going on with them at school, and be there to help them get through it all. Using positive communication techniques, and remaining calm at all times, all situations should go very smoothly.




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